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Why are we so afraid to fail?

 

We constantly hear … Mr. X is super successful in his career, Mrs. Y and Mr. Z are super successful in their marriage, and so countless people who are happy and successful in their lives. We ask ourselves, why are they so successful and I am not?

 

The answer is simple, we only see the cover of the magazine, but not the story behind it. What we see is that these “successful” characters carry personal baggage of disappointments, failures, crying and suffering, struggle, which has allowed them to reach the position that today show us with pride. We see for example that those people, who have thrived at some point in their life, committed faults, but merely an interest to achieve their purposes, reached the goal they wanted to achieve. His secret, who tried it, even with that fear that things will not turn out as expected, even though many times they failed; failures of those who learned how to not make the same mistake in the next attempt, in a nutshell, dared to face the challenges that put their lives on the road even with the fear that everything was ruined.

 

Being afraid is natural, but when fear becomes the compass that directs the decisions you make, the …. “I can not” … the … “I must not” …. and … “what if she says no?” … become undesirable companions of the way, that keep us from every possibility to feel happy and fulfilled, and we become mere spectators of the successes of others, while we sabotage our own. “The really successful person will always achieve mastery in managing their own emotions” Tom Butler  Anyone can feel fear, but to the proper level, at the right time and for the right reasons, provided they are well founded. We need to internalize that life is not easy, things that frighten us to the final keep learning a great lesson, that without challenges, life becomes monotonous, gray and lifeless. We must sit down to analyze the positive and the negative attitudes that we have. How we can balance them, which is what we are really looking for: the self-gratification of the achievements or show the world what we have achieved.

 

 

Anyone can feel fear, but to the proper level, at the right time and for the right reasons, provided they are well founded. We need to internalize that life is not easy, things that frighten us to the final keep learning a great lesson, that without challenges, life becomes monotonous, gray and lifeless. We must sit down to analyze positive and negative attitudes that we have, how we can balance them, which is what we are really looking for. The self-gratification of the achievements or showing the world what we have achieved. Once we admit that is what drives us and admit that things are not so easy to get, but to learn not to be afraid to problems, suffering, assuming our share of responsibility, with the courage to try things, we find the balance that allows us to face what terrifies us. When we realize that life is like a game of strategy that we should be motivated to learn, to take responsibility for our actions, to learn to apply the rules to overcome all obstacles, we shall then take the time to live a life that you always wanted. So remember

 

” Forge your own destiny, create something valuable, make a superior form of humanity, be daring to face your fears.” Tom Butler

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Social Anxiety / Professional Confidence - Public Speaking / Fear of Flying

"I'm now able to perform tasks that I thought were impossible a month ago"

I've suffered from constant anxiety for as long as I can remember, particularly from social anxiety and fear of public speaking, to the point that my office jobs were no longer manageable and I was very close to fall deeply into depression. I had very little self-confidence, despite having progressed in my career and achieved many of my professional and personal goals. However, I got to a point in which I wasn't able to progress any further due to my the constant fear of being evaluated and criticised by others, which paralysed me and stopped me from speaking up and being more visible. My day to day prior to the sessions was absolutely controlled by my anxiety and lack of confidence due to past experiences, mainly during my childhood. Having done a number of therapies before (eMDR, CBT) I was sceptical at first, but I wanted to give hypnotherapy and the BAGC6 a go. After around 13 sessions I can say that I'm in a much better place than when I started. My constant anxiety has hugely decreased, and I'm now able to perform tasks that I thought were impossible a month ago, like giving a speech in front of my colleagues without having a panic attack or simply socialising with new people at a party. My perspective on things is now different and I've gained new confidence which allows me to speak and interact with others without fear. Maria has been great in understanding my issues and creating a very tailored treatment (hypnosis, eMDR, etc) to tackle these. She's always been very determined and a firm believer in a full recovery which has been very helpful, particularly in moments when I wanted to give up. She's also giving me tools and techniques that I can use to manage emotions and to stay focused (like auto-hypnosis) and I'm using these almost on a daily basis to continue building on my confidence and resilience. As per the fear of flying, this is something that I still need to test, but I'm confident that I will have also overcome it in the same way that I've beaten my anxiety disorder. I can only be grateful to Maria for all her help and for believing in me since day 1, and totally recommend her treatment!

Thanks so much!
06/26/2018
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