Healing The Pain And Moving On After a Heartbreak
Falling in love is nice, but it comes with a price – the possibility of a heartbreak! In the course of my work in Bexhill & London, I have come across a lot of people, mostly young people who have been failed or rejected by the people they love. Their boats which once rocked, sunk, and their hearts were torn to shreds.
Falling in love is nice, but it comes with a price – the possibility of a heartbreak! In the course of my work in Bexhill, I have come across a lot of people, mostly young people who have been failed or rejected by the people they love. Their boats which once rocked, sunk, and their hearts were torn to shreds.
What Causes Heartbreaks?
A recent study conducted in Bexhill area identified the major causes of heartbreaks to include:
- Infidelity: This is arguably the most common cause of heartbreaks. When people cheat on their partners and are caught, the relationship ends.
- Incompatibility: Some partners are incompatible and have unresolvable differences. Such a relationship will be an abusive one and will surely fail.
- The need for a finer partner: A finer partner could be one that is more beautiful, handsome, taller, macho, slender, etc.
- Financial reasons: People break the hearts of their partners and go for others when they perceive that their partners can no longer meet up with their financial needs and demands.
- Need for better emotional satisfaction: This can be in the form of a more loving and caring partner, a more sexually satisfying one, etc.
- Deception: People break the hearts of their lovers when they discover that they were being deceived all along.
Helpful Tips To Heal The Pain And Move On
In attempting to heal the pain and move on, one must bear in mind that simply ignoring the pain or not acknowledging it will not make it go away. The pain is most times, ingrained in the psyche and must be cleared away if the person must regain balance in his or her life. The following steps will be helpful:
- Evaluate yourself: Try to find out the things you must change about yourself. Where did you get it wrong? What are your strengths and weaknesses? What did you learn? Knowing these will help you be a better person when love knocks again.
- Release yourself: Heartbreaks are often accompanied by feelings of regret and guilt. The best way to heal yourself will be to free yourself by accepting that you are human and prone to mistakes. Accept your mistakes and promise yourself not to repeat them in the next relationship.
- Forgive: Forgiving your partner and letting go of any pent-up feelings is a major step towards the healing process. Holding on will make you a slave to them and will affect your next attempt at finding true love.
- Go outdoors: Going outdoors by hanging out with friends, attending parties, engaging in sports, volunteering for community service, etc. will reduce the time spent on brooding over a failed relationship and will also increase the chances of meeting a more interesting and compatible person who shares similar ideas.
- Seek help: If left unchecked, heartbreaks could cause depression or suicidal tendencies. If you notice that you are slipping into depressive states, seek the services of medical experts or relationship specialists immediately. There are many of these specialists in Bexhill waiting to help you.
Various therapies can be helpful in healing heartbroken people. I employ Mindfulness, Suggestion Therapy, Parts Therapy, Regression Hypnotherapy, EMDR, EFT, Reiki, etc. The best approach will be aimed at finding out the underlying causes of heartbreak and of course, coming up with a sustainable solution.
Determining the best approach is dependent on individual conditions and circumstances and is mutually determined on consultation. Information regarding the various therapies and solutions is available on my website.